Self Respect: a Hidden Key to Self Esteem

In many of the models and approaches to developing self esteem there seems to me to be something missing. That something missing is the self respect which come from feeling good about what we are doing. No matter how much we like ourselves, or how confident we are in...

Self Esteem is Like Baking a Cake

One of the things which makes self esteem tricky to define as that it does not come directly from what we do. It comes out indirectly. It is a bit like baking a cake. To bake a cake we have to get the ingredients mix them up and then let the oven do its job. Self...

Introducing a Fun New Hang-up: Self-Negation

Most of us are familiar with guilt and shame. but what about Self-Negation? If this is not a term you are familiar with then please let me introduce you, as you may well be missing out. Whereas our old buddy guilt has to do with things we have done for which we feel...