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Stuck in a “bad marriage” with yourself?

Everything you say to yourself, you also say to the divine life within you.

The tone of the day, and the whole shape of your life, shows up in how you think about yourself when you look in the mirror first thing in the morning. This is when any tendency to judge, blame, criticise, or . . . → Read More: Stuck in a “bad marriage” with yourself?

Your Esteem Engine: How to Increase Self Worth

In the previous article we looked at how low Self Worth can be very damaging to our capacity to create what we want in life. It causes a feeling of being unworthy which can block good things coming our way – in every aspect of life.

The approach necessary to create more Self Worth can . . . → Read More: Your Esteem Engine: How to Increase Self Worth

Your Esteem Engine: When Self Worth is Low

In the previous post we touched on how our Esteem Engine is like a car engine: It needs to be balanced to get maximum power out of it. Lets look at what happens to our Esteem Power when our Self Worth is low, but first it helps to compare Self Confidence with Self Worth so . . . → Read More: Your Esteem Engine: When Self Worth is Low

Your Esteem Engine: Get your Motor Running

Just like a car needs an engine each us has what I like to call an “Esteem Engine”. Our Esteem engine is what powers our Self Esteem. When our Esteem Engine is running well we have lots of Self Esteem and can cruise through life smoothly and handle the hills and the bumps of life . . . → Read More: Your Esteem Engine: Get your Motor Running

Loneliness and Forgiveness

We feel most lonely when we are not a friend to ourselves. We feel most abandoned when we abandon ourselves. We feel most rejected when we reject ourselves.

Lack of forgiveness can isolate us from other people and create loneliness in our lives. If we have a store of unforgiven material it can make . . . → Read More: Loneliness and Forgiveness

Overcoming Shyness

It can seem like such a minor thing to label something as ‘shyness’. It makes it sound like it is no big deal. However, if we look at the missed opportunities and the loneliness and isolation that can come from shyness we can see that it is no minor thing. Shyness is a big and . . . → Read More: Overcoming Shyness

Keys to Self Empowerment: Self Worth

Self Worth, as I like to define it, is the sense of value we have for our own self. Self Worth is really about how much we like ourselves, and comes from feeling good about ourselves in a way which is fairly independent of what we do and how successful we are in the eyes . . . → Read More: Keys to Self Empowerment: Self Worth

Self Respect: a Hidden Key to Self Esteem

In many of the models and approaches to developing self esteem there seems to me to be something missing. That something missing is the self respect which come from feeling good about what we are doing. No matter how much we like ourselves, or how confident we are in our skills if we do not . . . → Read More: Self Respect: a Hidden Key to Self Esteem

Self Esteem is Like Baking a Cake

One of the things which makes self esteem tricky to define as that it does not come directly from what we do. It comes out indirectly. It is a bit like baking a cake. To bake a cake we have to get the ingredients mix them up and then let the oven do its job. . . . → Read More: Self Esteem is Like Baking a Cake

Introducing a Fun New Hang-up: Self-Negation

Most of us are familiar with guilt and shame. but what about Self-Negation? If this is not a term you are familiar with then please let me introduce you, as you may well be missing out.

Whereas our old buddy guilt has to do with things we have done for which we feel regret, and . . . → Read More: Introducing a Fun New Hang-up: Self-Negation