Helping People Empower Themselves

William Fergus Martin. International Author, Presenter , Workshop Leader

The New Way of Leadership

During the spring of 2015 I was took the lead in organising the first TEDxFindhorn. There were people involved with far more experience than me in organising events. Yet despite me encouraging them, no suggestions were coming from them about how we could best run the...

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Happy Habits

Happy habits is based on the simple idea of using our innate ability to bless to help us break out of habits of unhappy thinking and feeling. We simply replaces habits, of negativity, regret, worry and anger with a habit of blessing. There are three main happy habits:...

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Two Kinds of Healing

There are two kinds of healing. In one kind of healing a blessing comes to us. We become uplifted, soothed, and difficulties and blocks fall away. With the other kind of healing, the blessing is not so obvious. We feel like we are brought low, life gets rough and...

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Four Steps to Forgiveness

If you are looking for a very practical and easy way to forgive try the Four Steps to Forgiveness. I have made these four steps openly freely available to anyone who wants them. You will also find the The instructions for how to use Four Steps to Forgiveness on the...

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Forgiveness is Power

My book Forgiveness is Power now has a publication date! Its wonderful to see it emerge for real after working on it for so long. It is chock full of good ideas about how to become more forgiving. I think it will help many people. It comes out 2nd Sept 2013. Good...

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Simple Way to Help Empower

Some years ago a friend of mine did something which really helped me turn around a situation where I was feeling very challenged.  It took her all of two seconds. It was one of the best and most effective things I have ever come across. I was moaning about a situation...

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Run your car on water?

Like many people I am very interested in gadgets meant to save fuel. I recently started looking at the devices which convert water to hydrogen and oxygen which then feed this mix into the car air intake. The idea is that the hydrogen and oxygen mix burns in the engine...

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Homecoming: John Bradshaw

by John Bradshaw is a seminal work that shaped many people`s understanding of both co-dependency and inner child work. The comedian Bill Connelly, who had a rather difficult childhood, once described John Bradshaw as a "genius". Certainly I for one had not come across...

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Shower of Power

The famous motivational expert Anthony Robbins has his Hour of Power; I have my Shower of Power. What is  a Shower of Power?  Well it`s really very simple. I was looking for a way to bring more positivity into my  life. I decided it would be good to find a way to use...

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Eckart Tolle: The Power of Now

Eckart Tolle and his writings have become a modern phenomena. The Power of Now became a number one best seller on the New York Times Best Seller list. This is a particularly hopeful sign considering that the book is really about the madness of the world and the need...

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Eckart Tolle: A New Earth

A New Earth is subtitled Awakening to Life`s Purpose, which naturally gives us a very clear idea of what the book is about. Eckart encourages to look beyond the noise created by our ego to that inner presence which takes us beyond our normal sense of who we think we...

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Giving Stuff Away

A friend expressed concern because a website I have set up is giving information away to people for free (thought-bricks.com). I am happy to give the stuff away. In fact in some ways I have to do that from time to time. Whether other people appreciate it or not is up...

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Loss of Faith

A friend wrote to me about his loss of faith caused by a project, which would have benefited many people, going bad. This was my response. Loss of faith is a big one. Especially if a big effort to create something good and worthwhile turns bad....

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Making Connection: Eye Contact II

I got a fun and interesting response to the article about eye contact, so I have posted it below for you to enjoy... --- Ah! One of my favorite topics; eye contact. This is yet another area that affects the genders somewhat differently, though I absolutely concur with...

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Making Connection: Eye Contact

A lot of the skills we need in connecting with others can be developed as we go about the ordinary business of our daily lives. It is well known, for example, that eye contact is one the main ways that connection and attraction is felt between people. Good eye contact...

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Overcoming Shyness

It can seem like such a minor thing to label something as 'shyness'. It makes it sound like it is no big deal. However, if we look at the missed opportunities and the loneliness and isolation that can come from shyness we can see that it is no minor thing. Shyness is...

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Afterlife Adventure – Intro

I first got seriously interested in the afterlife when in my late teens early twenties I discovered that my Great Uncle had a large stack of books from Psychic Press Book Club. Many of these books had stories about people's experiences in the afterlife. Some of the...

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Keys to Self Empowerment: Self Worth

Self Worth, as I like to define it, is the sense of value we have for our own self. Self Worth is really about how much we like ourselves, and comes from feeling good about ourselves in a way which is fairly independent of what we do and how successful we are in the...

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Over the Rim

We spent the journey in meditation, feeling that a preparation of quietness and peace was essential. The drifting ease and blankness of the void, and the blue light made stillness simple. As we sped on our way without apparent movement, our minds were each turned...

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What we taught Rose

“What a delightful place,” Rose sighed, looking round our house. “The comfort of it!” “See how simple it is,” Janet said. “On earth, people complicate life so much. Here, with a place to rest, fruit to eat and all the land to roam in, one can be completely happy.” “I...

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We Entertain a Guest

Janet and I gasped simultaneously. “On the sea!” I echoed, “but I thought you said she came from earth? How can she have such powers?” “Does a soap-bubble have ‘powers’ when it rises higher than a man can jump?” he retorted, and added, when he saw my puzzlement, “Of...

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We Take a House

I was particularly pleased with our coming visit for I had long had a plan in my mind for acquiring one of the houses in the Plane Between. Remembering the happiness of Stephen and James there, I thought that Janet and I could perhaps secure a house nearby. The...

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The Hall of Sleep

On our way we talked together. I asked Janet if she had been to the Hall of Sleep before, and she said she had served there for some time. Of course, I wanted details. “How is it that some newcomers need sleep when they arrive and others do not?” “Some have laboured...

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The First Star

The hall was peopled with angels who acted as guides, and as we approached, one came to us at once and motioned us to follow. We were led to a large group of the Purple-Gowned and there was immediately a great number of introductions between us. Very soon my shoulder...

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Hi Tec and The Holy Grail

It is when we ask, "What ails thee? How can I serve?" and respond with our warrior spirit, that we find the Grail. In the quest for the Holy Grail the main turning point is when the hero asks two questions. There are different version of these two questions and each...

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The Hall of Audience

The return journey was very different from that on which I had come. This time I knew where I was and the reason for it. Also, I had the company of Janet, Stephen and James. As we raced along through the void, soothed by its strange blue light, I felt as though we...

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The Golden Sash

“Oh the power, the Wisdom, the Love,” I murmured, trying to realise it all. After a while, I asked, “What of the people? Who are they and where were they when we first came?” “This is a Plane Between,” Stephen explained. That was all he said but it opened up my link...

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The Plane Between

We had continued our walk as James spoke and now we came upon an open space, flanked on three sides by trees. The centre of the clearing was short grass, studded here and there with the brilliant flowers I had seen on the hillside. On each of the three sides, set with...

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Into the Void

As I reached the fringe of the Hall of Reception, word came to me from Stephen that he would like to see me. I was particularly glad of this invitation, for I had laboured long over the newcomers and thought a rest would be very pleasant. I turned at once and started...

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Heaven is Fulfilment

My next charge was leaning against a rock when I reached her side. She was a young girl, pale of skin, but wiry and graceful; and she made as pretty a picture in her loose white robe as the trees behind her. I approached her cautiously for she seemed lost in thought....

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Hubert’s Rebellion

When I returned to the Hall of Reception I knew at once where I should go, for a man's need had called me to his side. He was walking up and down on the grass, now pausing to gaze down into the valley, now shading his eyes—quite unnecessarily—to scan the distant...

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New Arrivals

The news reached me and many others of the Purple-Gowned, that a number of people had suddenly died, and would soon arrive in the Hall of Reception. I knew that I must go to help in the welcoming of them. At first I wondered why this should be, as angels usually...

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Aversions

When we avoid too much we live in a void too much. When our unforgiving mind is active we can easily build up aversions to particular people. This can cause us to avoid the places where these people go and can cause us to constrain or limit our work or social life. Of...

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The Balance Dance

Depending on our character, we may become more quiet around loud people; or we may become louder. We may become pushy around people who are offering us resistance and we may become resistant around pushy people. We may become needy around independent people and we...

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The Pain of Unforgiveness

If we have not forgiven, sometimes other things masquerading as wisdom will take its place. If we get bitter and cynical and accept attitudes like, "People can't be trusted.",  "Men/women are just impossible", or whatever, then this is nothing to do with wisdom. It...

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Wisdom and Forgiveness

Wisdom is, in part, our capacity to extract meaning and value from our experiences. The more capacity we have to extract meaning from an experience the more likely that we see ways it which good has or will come out of it. This makes naturally makes it easier to...

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Tough Forgiveness

Forgiveness gives us the freedom to stay and the freedom to walk away. Just as the idea of Tough Love has helped clarify a healthy expression of love, the concept of Tough Forgiveness can help use clarify a healthy expressions of forgiveness. Tough forgiveness has a...

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Message from Bernard

At the time of writing there are nine in this series of "Heaven Books". They were written and will be published in this order: Dream Journey to Heaven, Purple Gowned, Death and Life of a Soldier, In the King's Service, In Search of Wisdom, One Step Higher, Heaven is...

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New Arrivals

The news reached me and many others of the Purple-Gowned, that a number of people had suddenly died, and would soon arrive in the Hall of Reception. I knew that I must go to help in the welcoming of them. At first I wondered why this should be, as angels usually...

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Reconciliation

Fear is wisdom as a child. Forgiveness and reconciliation are two distinct and different things. Forgiveness is letting go of the desire to punish; reconciliation is the re-establishing of a relationship. They often go together and this causes some confusion between...

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Remember the past, it’s gone.

Remember the past, it's gone. I like to play with words and this is what I am doing here. At the time, I was finding it too easy to remember things from my past which were not good experiences. I needed a phrase to remind myself that the most important thing about...

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Angel Meditation

A very important thing to know about angels is that they do not usually intervene in our lives unless they are asked. If we want angelic help with any part of our life we need to ask. It does not matter if the issue is big, or small. It is the angels great joy to...

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Nice Guy Syndrome

To get the relationship you want: stop being such a nice guy! There is a very self-defeating pattern of behavior which some men get locked into. Any man who happens to suffer from it finds it very difficult to establish a romantic relationship with a woman. I like to...

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It is Better to be Free than Cheap

It is Better to be Free than Cheap I imagine most people get what I mean right away with this one. It is better to have to choose freedom than to cheaper ourselves by accepting something less than what we really, deeply want. Of course, sometimes we find there that...

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Writing as a Dance with the Soul

Writing is a dance with the soul. It is not meant to be a grim, determined march to the tune of the ego. When we dance with the soul we do not know where our partner will lead. Sometimes we may not even know who is leading. We are not in control, or at least not in...

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Fear is Wisdom as a Child.

As we allow our fears to be, we gain in wisdom. Our fears may be offering us important insights or information about a person or situation. It may be we think someone is alright, but a niggling sense of fear alerts us to some real dangers which we just did not see...

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Is Courage the Answer to Fear?

What is the answer to fear? Fear, when we get down to it, is just a set of bodily sensations. It might be an odd sensation in the throat, or a sick feeling in the stomache. We know fear through our bodily reactions. The sensations of fear are uncomfortable so we may...

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The Success Formula

The success formula is simply a formula which we can use to achieve success. It is a way to go about getting what we want which helps ensure that we get it. Using the success formula we are able to see an blocks or hindrances to achieving our goals. We are able to see...

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Self Esteem is Like Baking a Cake

One of the things which makes self esteem tricky to define as that it does not come directly from what we do. It comes out indirectly. It is a bit like baking a cake. To bake a cake we have to get the ingredients mix them up and then let the oven do its job. Self...

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Relationship Games

When people say that they "don't want games" in a relationship what they really mean is that they do not want sick games, stupid games or somebody messing with them. Trying to imagine a relationship without any 'games' at all is like trying to imagine a world without...

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What do women want?

We have to be careful how we ask that age-old question if we really want an answer. The reason for this is that it might not actually be the right question. It really depends what we want to know. The problem with the question "What do women want?" is that it is very...

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What is it to be a Healthy Man?

Now that is an interesting question. We can reasonably assume that a healthy man will naturally attract healthy women. However, as men we want to be healthy anyway aside from what women want (or don't want). We don't want to live life just to suit other people at...

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