The New Way of Leadership

During the spring of 2015 I was took the lead in organising the first TEDxFindhorn. There were people involved with far more experience than me in organising events. Yet despite me encouraging them, no suggestions were coming from them about how we could best run the event. It was only when I made s...

Man with a Hand Cart

In ancient times a man was pushing a hand cart along a track when it got stuck in deep mud. He pushed and pushed for a long time, but he could not get his hand cart out of the mud. He was getting very angry and frustrated at how impossible it was to push the cart. After a while he thought to himself...

Happy Habits

Happy habits is based on the simple idea of using our innate ability to bless to help us break out of habits of unhappy thinking and feeling. We simply replaces habits, of negativity, regret, worry and anger with a habit of blessing. There are three main happy habits: 1. Bless People. every time y...

Two Kinds of Healing

There are two kinds of healing. In one kind of healing a blessing comes to us. We become uplifted, soothed, and difficulties and blocks fall away.With the other kind of healing, the blessing is not so obvious. We feel like we are brought low, life gets rough and difficulties and blocks are eve...

Ho’oponopono, by Ulrich Dupree.

This really wonderful little book, author Ulrich E. Dupree, is deceptively simple. Much is packed into it that is not obvious at first glance. The Ulrich presents Ho’oponopono in a heart-felt way, rather than in a very mentally stimulating way. He does not go into a lot of details, long stories, or...

A Course in Miracles

The Course in Miracles is a very profound set of teaching based on the theme of Forgiveness. Its main goals are to set us free from fear; free from fear of the future, free from fear of other people and above all free from fear of God.It is mainly a set of 365 lessons (one per day for the year)...

Opposite Emotions: Self Help Guide

I have put together a new Self Help Guide. It is a handy page opposite emotions (ie lists negative emotions with their positive opposite) Opposite Emotions Self Help Guide. This is very useful for any self help or self improvement exercise where it is good to be clearer about the negative emotions...

Four Steps to Forgiveness

If you are looking for a very practical and easy way to forgive try the Four Steps to Forgiveness. I have made these four steps openly freely available to anyone who wants them. You will also find the The instructions for how to use Four Steps to Forgiveness on the site. Please make use of them an...

From Unconcious Mind to Parallel Mind

I am having a bit of a problem with my Unconscious Mind. I am realizing that I don’t have one! “Where did you put it?”, you may ask. “Did it go into the washing machine along with that floppy red hat you like to wear?”As you probably know the term “Unconscious Mind” simply refers to things going...

Forgiveness is Power

My book Forgiveness is Power now has a publication date!Its wonderful to see it emerge for real after working on it for so long. It is chock full of good ideas about how to become more forgiving. I think it will help many people.It comes out 2nd Sept 2013. Good strong cover design. Take a l...

Forgiveness is Power in Final Editing.

We are on the final editing of Forgiveness is Power so expecting it will be out in the autumn as intended. The editing has been going very well and Micheal Hawkins my editor (its fun to say “my editor”).I think this book will help and inspire many people. It makes forgiveness really accessible an...

Forgiveness is Power: Book Release!

I am delighted to let you all know that my book Forgiveness is Power is being released by Findhorn Press later this year! The launch is planned to happen around 25th Sepetember 2013 as we will be having a launch event at the Findhorn Conference Forgiveness: The Great UndoingI will be posting e...

Simple Way to Help Empower

Some years ago a friend of mine did something which really helped me turn around a situation where I was feeling very challenged. It took her all of two seconds. It was one of the best and most effective things I have ever come across.I was moaning about a situation I was finding feeling very wor...

Shower of Power

The famous motivational expert Anthony Robbins has his Hour of Power; I have my Shower of Power.What is a Shower of Power? Well it`s really very simple. I was looking for a way to bring more positivity into my life. I decided it would be good to find a way to use small routine times during the da...

Homecoming: John Bradshaw

by John Bradshaw is a seminal work that shaped many people`s understanding of both co-dependency and inner child work.The comedian Bill Connelly, who had a rather difficult childhood, once described John Bradshaw as a “genius”. Certainly I for one had not come across the concept of toxic shame, n...

Eckart Tolle: The Power of Now

Eckart Tolle and his writings have become a modern phenomena. The Power of Now became a number one best seller on the New York Times Best Seller list. This is a particularly hopeful sign considering that the book is really about the madness of the world and the need for radical change.The book es...

Eckart Tolle: A New Earth

A New Earth is subtitled Awakening to Life`s Purpose, which naturally gives us a very clear idea of what the book is about.Eckart encourages to look beyond the noise created by our ego to that inner presence which takes us beyond our normal sense of who we think we are. This book is revolutionary...

Giving Stuff Away

A friend expressed concern because a website I have set up is giving information away to people for free (thought-bricks.com).I am happy to give the stuff away. In fact in some ways I have to do that from time to time. Whether other people appreciate it or not is up to them. I learned to become f...

Loneliness and Self-rejection

When we reject part of ourselves we feel rejected.It can be very tempting to push away the parts of ourselves which we do not approve of. Yet, I notice that when I judge part of myself and push that part away as being “not okay” somehow, then that part feels pain. Guess who ultimately feels that...

What is a Chocolate Hangover?

Oh no… Never again… Yes, the morning after… The morning after I ate a lot of chocolate.I have a chocolate hangover… headache… queasy stomach… etc..Never heard of it? Not many have. Maybe many people get them and don’t recognize the cause. It is what can happen from eating too much chocolate. U...

Making Connection: Eye Contact II

I got a fun and interesting response to the article about eye contact, so I have posted it below for you to enjoy…— Ah! One of my favorite topics; eye contact. This is yet another area that affects the genders somewhat differently, though I absolutely concur with the overall power of eye contact...

Making Connection: Eye Contact

A lot of the skills we need in connecting with others can be developed as we go about the ordinary business of our daily lives.It is well known, for example, that eye contact is one the main ways that connection and attraction is felt between people. Good eye contact generates a kind of electrici...

Overcoming Shyness

It can seem like such a minor thing to label something as ‘shyness’. It makes it sound like it is no big deal. However, if we look at the missed opportunities and the loneliness and isolation that can come from shyness we can see that it is no minor thing. Shyness is a big and important issue.I h...

Afterlife Adventure – Intro

I first got seriously interested in the afterlife when in my late teens early twenties I discovered that my Great Uncle had a large stack of books from Psychic Press Book Club. Many of these books had stories about people’s experiences in the afterlife. Some of the material was communicated via medi...

A Solution to Stinky Sandal Syndrome?

Amongst the many challenges facing humanity these days few can be as onerous as the dreaded stinky sandal syndrome. I am presently in a rather hot country and in the last few weeks I have been facing a raging battle against this menace. At first my sandals just had their normal slightly odd aroma, b...

Hi Tec and The Holy Grail

It is when we ask, “What ails thee? How can I serve?” and respond with our warrior spirit, that we find the Grail.In the quest for the Holy Grail the main turning point is when the hero asks two questions. There are different version of these two questions and each version offers different insigh...

Aversions

When we avoid too much we live in a void too much.When our unforgiving mind is active we can easily build up aversions to particular people. This can cause us to avoid the places where these people go and can cause us to constrain or limit our work or social life. Of course, sometimes avoiding so...

The Balance Dance

Depending on our character, we may become more quiet around loud people; or we may become louder. We may become pushy around people who are offering us resistance and we may become resistant around pushy people. We may become needy around independent people and we become more independent around need...

Are you Busy Blaming or Busy Learning?

It is better to be busy learning than busy blaming.Releasing the need to blame and replacing it with our need to learn helps to create a more forgiving climate in our inner world. If we think about people we know who are Blamers we may notice that they do not seem to learn much from their experie...

The Pain of Unforgiveness

If we have not forgiven, sometimes other things masquerading as wisdom will take its place. If we get bitter and cynical and accept attitudes like, “People can’t be trusted.”, “Men/women are just impossible”, or whatever, then this is nothing to do with wisdom. It can be tempting to assume that we h...

Wisdom and Forgiveness

Wisdom is, in part, our capacity to extract meaning and value from our experiences. The more capacity we have to extract meaning from an experience the more likely that we see ways it which good has or will come out of it. This makes naturally makes it easier to forgive. Wisdom is not an abstract qu...

Tough Forgiveness

Forgiveness gives us the freedom to stay and the freedom to walk away.Just as the idea of Tough Love has helped clarify a healthy expression of love, the concept of Tough Forgiveness can help use clarify a healthy expressions of forgiveness. Tough forgiveness has a lot to do with whether or not w...